Attachments are good as long as you need each other and your attachments are not sick, soft, rather playful. If your partner’s relationship shows a tough, sick attachment to you, then this is a dangerous situation. A person with such affection gives inappropriate reactions: he literally pursues the object of his “love”, calls at any time of the day, demands to be with him, threatens to deprive himself, or even of another life.
How to prevent such a relationship? What to do if such a person, nevertheless, appeared next to you? How to end such a relationship, if they have already begun?
The most important rule that you need to adopt is not to mess with those who may develop a sick attachment. Starting to build a relationship with a new person, listen to his words, look at emotions. If, suddenly, you begin to hear from him something like “I can’t live without you,” said in all seriousness with real emotions, then this is a clear alarm signal and you will be prompted: “This relationship needs to be quickly stopped.” Continue reading
The essence of the family is WE: caring for both of us, about ourselves and about you, about our couple. We were separate, and we became together, we became a couple: you become part of me, I am part of you. “You and I – we are one.”
Internal wording: “Sometimes you want to kill you, to get a divorce – no.” “Divorce is out of the question, so we have two options: either shoot, or learn to negotiate.”
Feeling WE: “You and I are one, a continuation of each other.” The basis of proximity. We can have elements of a transaction in the family, but its basis is different: the couple lives (consciously or unconsciously) by believing in love – that the other can take care of you as of himself. Continue reading
Usually hidden necrophiles are fond of anatomy, especially pathologic anatomy; nevertheless, I will venture to offer you a small excursion into the pathological anatomy of family communication.
Well, really, this is interesting!
A family was formed. They found each other. With truths and loves, they ended up together, all official visits were completed, the door closed pleasantly behind the last fattened guest, you can start a family life.
And this is how? What to do?
The most understandable is often the most mysterious. Continue reading