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It is probably best for close people to communicate without any special psychological influences, simply, directly and openly. When a relationship is good, this is how it happens, but it doesn’t always happen … But what to do when people and relationships are problematic, when a person does not respond to normal requests? Yes, in these cases you have to turn to special tools …
Attention: scary words will be heard now, but don’t be afraid: these words are followed by very understandable and well-known things in which there is nothing to worry about.
The psychological means of effective influence include civilized training, operant conditioning, involvement, building the situation, anchoring and hidden suggestions. It sounds solid and even menacing, but you will be surprised when you get acquainted with reality: it seems that you do it daily, without noticing and not thinking. And when you notice, you don’t regret it, because in the hands of wise people any tool works for good. Continue reading
To get married – do not attack, as if married not to disappear!
These are two completely different tasks: one thing is to get married, the other is to get married happily. How to get married is described in detail in the article “How to Act a Girl to Marry”: the article is not very kind, but realistic. The main thing in the science of “getting married” is 1) to learn to weed out men in love who are not going to get married in the near future with any love, and 2) to play on the man’s sense of a hunter, posing himself in front of men as a woman who needs to be won and won.
But getting married happily is another matter. This is about how to find your person, how to find a person worthy, how to build and maintain warm and open relationships. If you meet such a person, you will love him, but future happiness does not begin with a feeling of love, but with your ability to understand people. Moreover, a strong love often turns out to be rather an obstacle: the more we are in love, the more difficult it is for us to understand the features of the one who attracts us so much. Continue reading
If people are smart and love each other, everything is simple: one asked, the other did. Disagreements arise – close people agree. You can agree on almost everything, but not everyone is inclined to discuss, not always everything is openly discussed, it is appropriate and not everything is decided by discussion. For example, if you need to wean a person from a bad habit or to accustom to a good one, if you just need to draw attention to something, and distract from something, these are not questions of discussion, this is a question of various influences.
Is it possible, is it normal for loved ones to influence each other? Smart and loving – yes, you can and should. One way or another, close people always influence each other, the only question is how to do it more competently.
The “Crystallization” technique that we developed to resolve problems between spouses consists of the following steps. Suppose a husband wants to correct his wife’s behavior, which can suddenly erupt with reproaches, insults, he solves many issues without consulting her husband, essentially pushing him aside, that is, correcting those moments that weigh on him, do not like him and just offend him. Then: Continue reading