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The essence of the family is WE: caring for both of us, about ourselves and about you, about our couple. We were separate, and we became together, we became a couple: you become part of me, I am part of you. “You and I – we are one.”
Internal wording: “Sometimes you want to kill you, to get a divorce – no.” “Divorce is out of the question, so we have two options: either shoot, or learn to negotiate.”
Feeling WE: “You and I are one, a continuation of each other.” The basis of proximity. We can have elements of a transaction in the family, but its basis is different: the couple lives (consciously or unconsciously) by believing in love – that the other can take care of you as of himself. Continue reading
A crisis in a relationship is a period when your previous relationship has ceased to suit you. When the couple no longer wants to live as before, and the relationship can not develop according to the old patterns. If the relationship was expensive, then the crisis is painfully experienced.
The partner’s habits that you didn’t pay attention to are now constantly annoying. You don’t understand how you didn’t notice this before him (her)? Your eyes seem to open wide, you get the feeling that you used to be hibernated, in a fog, bewitched, but now you suddenly woke up and you feel disappointed. As if you were deceived! …
The family is similar to a living organism and in its development goes through the traditional stages and stages, which can be called the levels of family development. This is the period of courtship, then living together without children, then – a family with a small child, a mature family and a family with adult children. Then the children leave their parents, leaving for an independent life. For many families, an additional turning point is retirement, when you have to rebuild life in a completely new way. Continue reading
Becoming a good wife is easy: you just need to learn this. Surely you already know almost everything. You learned that for a long time.
Mom teaches her daughter to cook and do household chores, daughter learns to be a mistress. Perhaps this is the first skill of the wife: to feed her husband and children, to create comfort in the house, when everything is washed, ironed and tidied. Does every woman know how? Not. A good wife – not only knows how, but also loves.
Grandmother called her granddaughter the Sun, admired her smile, taught to be caring and enjoy life. This is the second skill of the wife, although many smart men consider it her main quality. Woman is a smile, woman is a joy; how wonderful it is when a woman is filled with light and love, when her voice sounds like a ringing bell. Indeed, after all, it is the wife who first adorns the life of the family. From her mood and mood, from her attentiveness and responsiveness depends on how this life will be joyful and happy. Continue reading