every stubborn man
Each of us needs friends, everyone values friendships, but in science the phenomenon of friendship and friendship has not been studied well. Perhaps, Igor Semenovich Kon, who even wrote a book called Friendship, sorted it out best. She came out back in the 70s.
Generally speaking, friendship is a “sexless marriage”. In the sense that people do not marry each other, but all other relationships, minus sexual ones, remain with them. This is help, support, devotion, interest in each other, a joint pastime. At the same time, this happens more in marriage, and in friendship it is often more interesting and better. Friendship is the satisfaction of our needs for participation, support, in sharing our impressions.
Friendship can be between people close and not, friends and pals. But they may not be between them. Different people put different content into the word Friends and Friend. Friends should not be confused only with friends. Friends are people with whom you can have fun, but nothing more. They differ from friends in that friends can be asked for help in difficult times, but friends can’t. The right people are needed, useful contacts are useful, but it’s not at all the same as friends. A separate conversation about what a true friend is, as opposed to just a friend. One thing is for sure: good friends go to someone who knows how to be a good friend. Continue reading
I will suggest you look at a small fragment of a conversation between two well-educated and already loving each other people. Their names are Ricky and Kate. This small conversation is unlikely to attract your attention – it is so ordinary, familiar, not distinguished by anything. And in my opinion, this is outrageous, because the way Kate says here is an example of rotten negative manipulations, and the link “But everyone does the same!” matters does not change. Let everyone do it – but will you do it?
I am sure that most of the readers of the Psychologist of this article will not understand and will call the author a petty person who, for nothing, will find fault with women. You have the right to such opinions, but you may also be interested in another view, where it is important not to convict, but to tell loving people: what is permissible and what is not. Because if what you do is returned to you by your partner, you will be offended and indignant. And because if you love – you want to take care of your beloved. Yes?
So watch the video. And after that – we will make a transcript of what is happening. Continue reading
“Loves a woman, loves a child.” I very often hear this saying when it comes to talking about the children that a man receives with his beloved woman.
Does a man give love to a woman an automatic opportunity to become sympathetic to her child?
As I have to observe, it does not. Very many men do not at all have enthusiastic feelings for the children of their women from previous relationships.
And is it the only “fault” here of this particular man?
As life shows, men even love their own children not so much for the call of blood, but for specific personality traits. If for some reason the father does not like the personality of the child, then often the father also does not observe love and strong affection for the child. And if in a situation of biological paternity, the father can be asked – where is his own contribution to the personality of his child, so that it delights him? In the case of a foster child, such questions are no longer relevant. Continue reading