Discussing difficult issues is not easy. When people are addicted, they begin to speak categorically, throw a lot of negativity on their partner and just immediately talk about a lot, raising several topics at once. How to discuss this? Only if you answer the same.
“I get tired, but you don’t help me and behave as if all your whims should be fulfilled immediately!” – what to answer? Now listen to another conversation: “I’m tired and would like to discuss with you, can I count on your help?” – “Oh sure!”. If the conversation is built in the form of dialogue, it’s easier to negotiate.
You do not like the stubborn categorization of your interlocutors? Do you prefer a respectful dialogue in a conversation? Do you think the game “Who’s Got Anyone” is stupid and you would like to conduct the discussion more thoughtfully and collaboratively? So, you will like the technique, exercise and the game “What do you think?”. It’s simple: you begin to speak briefly and, expressing your thoughts briefly, ask your interlocutor: “What do you think?” If you start to behave like this, it’s easy for you to agree with your loved ones to answer you the same. Continue reading
What woman doesn’t dream of marrying a general? That’s right, this is a real man, a strong and responsible person, you are behind him like a stone wall. Everything is so, but after work he is so tired and exhausted that at best he is no longer up to you, but at worst – he needs to be discharged by someone … Who, interestingly, guess?
How then to meet him? Any inaccuracy, especially an oversight – and you will be destroyed on the way, because to scandalize with it is as promising as resisting a nuclear explosion. Only one way out: to master the tools of a wise wife and meet her husband correctly. How? Of course, we’ll tell you.
First: your task is to receive instructions from the source. Oddly enough, this is usually not the most difficult task. Once, when your husband is full, satisfied and cheerful (suppose this is a day off or you are on vacation together), you find a reason and ask him the following question: “How do I meet you from work when you are tired? How can I help you?”.
Please note this question is simple, straightforward, not heavy and not long. Here you are not talking about your difficult feelings and feelings, do not load it with details and problems, you just need instructions: how to do it right. For a military man, this is more than understandable: any business is done according to the instructions. Continue reading
“Yes, how much can I say that I’m strong and can handle it ?! I already know that. Can’t you just sympathize and let me be weak ?! (Honey, thank you for your support!) ”
“I urgently need hugs, let’s see you again”
“It seems our relationship has come to an end. He has a strange project that he doesn’t even have time to write for the whole day, not to mention that we don’t see each other. Okay, I’ll pretend that everything is in order, while there is no clear evidence. (Have a nice day, dear! Successful work today! – Thank you, dear! I kiss) ”
“Thank you for listening! I feel better”
“Friends, thank you for responding! It has become much easier to let go of the situation. Your recommendations and support are invaluable! ”
These are examples of those thoughts and dialogues that over the past month have shown me that in addition to the languages of love, there are different languages of support. Continue reading