Fidelity and treason
With regard to family psychology, fidelity is the most important and not always achievable condition for maintaining the stability of a monogamous marriage. Treason in marriage, adultery - a violation…

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I mind your jealousy
Soft writing “I love you, and I will repeat it again and again: I love you! And also - I know that you love me too. Hurrah! Therefore, I am…

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And what are we going to talk about today?
“My father always tried to choose an interesting or useful topic during lunch to develop the mind of his children. In this way, he turned our attention to good deeds…

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No one owes nothing to nobody?

“No one owes nothing to nobody!” – I said thirty years ago in the book “How to treat yourself and people: practical psychology for every day.” Since then, an equal number of people have sent me both ardent thanks for this position, which gave them wisdom and peace of mind, and equally fire-breathing claims from those who began to think so, treat people like that and as a result have broken their lives.

I quote the source:

I wake up early in the morning, I need to quickly pack up: I’m flying on a business trip. I understand that I don’t have time already: things are not all gathered, but it would be nice to have breakfast. My wife is lying, but she could probably stand up and help me … I’m ready to express my reproaches to her, but I stop myself at once: “Does this woman, your beloved wife, owe you something? No. But if do you want her to get up and help you, what should you do? – … It’s good to ask her: so that she wants to help you. ” And if she gets up and does everything, what will the husband have to tell her? – Thanks. And if she doesn’t get up (“I didn’t get enough sleep, the child didn’t let me sleep all night”), what should my husband do? At least not to be offended, and maybe apologize for the anxiety. Continue reading

Relations got, but we do not want to disperse

Once you could lie nearby and enjoy dreaming, looking into the high sky together, but today it’s hard for you to talk even on everyday topics. You used to love walking, holding hands, but today you don’t want to think about kissing him or her … Relationships sometimes get messy, but you have a common house, you have children, and it seems silly to disperse …

If your relationship has bothered you in your couple, but you believe that your relationship curves can be corrected, and, moreover, you want to correct them, then the following recommendations will help you. They are not fiction, they are developed in practice. They are tested, they work, but only among intelligent people who, in their own experience, developed and tested them. And, most importantly, these are not abstract recommendations, but clear and working instructions.

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And what do you think? – dialogue support and vaccination against categorization

Discussing difficult issues is not easy. When people are addicted, they begin to speak categorically, throw a lot of negativity on their partner and just immediately talk about a lot, raising several topics at once. How to discuss this? Only if you answer the same.
“I get tired, but you don’t help me and behave as if all your whims should be fulfilled immediately!” – what to answer? Now listen to another conversation: “I’m tired and would like to discuss with you, can I count on your help?” – “Oh sure!”. If the conversation is built in the form of dialogue, it’s easier to negotiate.

You do not like the stubborn categorization of your interlocutors? Do you prefer a respectful dialogue in a conversation? Do you think the game “Who’s Got Anyone” is stupid and you would like to conduct the discussion more thoughtfully and collaboratively? So, you will like the technique, exercise and the game “What do you think?”. It’s simple: you begin to speak briefly and, expressing your thoughts briefly, ask your interlocutor: “What do you think?” If you start to behave like this, it’s easy for you to agree with your loved ones to answer you the same. Continue reading

Relations got, but we do not want to disperse
Once you could lie nearby and enjoy dreaming, looking into the high sky together, but today it’s hard for you to talk even on everyday topics. You used to love…

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