Please make your choice
Discussing difficult issues is not easy. When people are addicted, they begin to speak categorically, throw a lot of negativity on their partner and just immediately talk about a lot, raising several topics at once. How to discuss this? Only if you answer the same.
“I get tired, but you don’t help me and behave as if all your whims should be fulfilled immediately!” – what to answer? Now listen to another conversation: “I’m tired and would like to discuss with you, can I count on your help?” – “Oh sure!”. If the conversation is built in the form of dialogue, it’s easier to negotiate.
You do not like the stubborn categorization of your interlocutors? Do you prefer a respectful dialogue in a conversation? Do you think the game “Who’s Got Anyone” is stupid and you would like to conduct the discussion more thoughtfully and collaboratively? So, you will like the technique, exercise and the game “What do you think?”. It’s simple: you begin to speak briefly and, expressing your thoughts briefly, ask your interlocutor: “What do you think?” If you start to behave like this, it’s easy for you to agree with your loved ones to answer you the same. Continue reading
The rational and very useful achievement of the European family – the lack of division of responsibilities between women and men, may seem controversial for a Russian person, but it works with a high degree of efficiency.
For example, the decision of who exactly in the family should make money is made from the real possibilities of the family, that is, the one who knows how to do it better earns. And the gender issue does not arise here. If for the general benefit of the family the spouses agree that the wife should go to a good job after maternity leave, because she will earn more than her husband, he will safely take on the function of the father on maternity leave, and paid. This is provided by the state and justified by the rational law of life.
In this situation, the European family does not have the opinion that the husband is weak and dependent, and the wife is not a “draft horse” who “plows” to feed everyone. These are stereotypes rather of Russian society. Continue reading
“I love you, and I will repeat it again and again: I love you! And also – I know that you love me too. Hurrah! Therefore, I am happy! But there is one dark cloud in our sky: you are jealous of me. And you are wrong!
You want me to be always with you and give you all my attention: this is correct, I agree with this, I want the same. I also love spending time with you. But no one has yet canceled my business trips (haven’t we canceled yet?), And someday you will be bored without me. I have a hope that you will be bored without me, but I do not want you to worry or to spoil your mood from the fact that I am not around. When you smile and you are in a good mood, you are so beautiful!
But there is one more situation. This is a situation where you begin to suspect that I am meeting someone else during my absence. Moreover, I am not happy with the situation when you start looking for something that can confirm these suspicions. And the point here is not only that you spoil your health with negative emotions, the thing is that it is humiliating for me. Continue reading