We live for good, not personal entertainment. Our task is to leave a good mark in life, and our life is dedicated to this, and not to sleep more, eat more tasty and buy everything status. Our inner comfort is not a value, but only a tool to help us live as we should. Provide your own happiness for yourself, it’s not difficult, and be always close to joy and smart sun for loved ones. Similarly, they are only tools, and not values - well-being, interesting life, social status and other cares for oneself.
Positive, constructive, responsibility is the basis of relations to oneself, people and life. If there are difficulties that can be dealt with, we do not run away from them, but we cope with them. Difficult yourself – ask for help.
The trust. We initially treat each other as decent people. To think badly of each other without real reasons is forbidden. We do not have serious secrets from each other, and we don’t hide and tell everything that is useful to know. We don’t look into the life of another without need, but in serious cases the concept of “confidential information” is not ours. Continue reading
Putting your soulmate on the Distance is a thankful result, but not easy in itself. Especially if your other half is an adult and mature, with your own opinion, sometimes stubborn and stubborn. He, in general, does not prevent you from doing “all sorts of cute stupid things,” such as psychology, and even really supports your new beginnings, but he doesn’t! “I have other interests!”, “Why do I need this?”, “It was you who entered there. And what have I got to do with it? ”- perhaps the most typical answers to the offer to go to the training, Sinton-cinema or to join the Distance.
What to do in this situation? After all, it turns out that you go forward, achieve something, rethink something, change old attitudes, overestimate values - in a word, you move! And at this time, another oar of your family boat, which worked in a habitually measured rhythm, continues to row along the beaten track of automatisms, creating turns, congestion and cycles. How not to slip into a situation where the husband is a “suitcase without handles,” which is hard to carry and it is a pity to leave? After all, he is his own, dear and beloved, and you, like, are still one, but already different. Continue reading
The rational and very useful achievement of the European family – the lack of division of responsibilities between women and men, may seem controversial for a Russian person, but it works with a high degree of efficiency.
For example, the decision of who exactly in the family should make money is made from the real possibilities of the family, that is, the one who knows how to do it better earns. And the gender issue does not arise here. If for the general benefit of the family the spouses agree that the wife should go to a good job after maternity leave, because she will earn more than her husband, he will safely take on the function of the father on maternity leave, and paid. This is provided by the state and justified by the rational law of life.
In this situation, the European family does not have the opinion that the husband is weak and dependent, and the wife is not a “draft horse” who “plows” to feed everyone. These are stereotypes rather of Russian society. Continue reading