Putting your soulmate on the Distance is a thankful result, but not easy in itself. Especially if your other half is an adult and mature, with your own opinion, sometimes stubborn and stubborn. He, in general, does not prevent you from doing “all sorts of cute stupid things,” such as psychology, and even really supports your new beginnings, but he doesn’t! “I have other interests!”, “Why do I need this?”, “It was you who entered there. And what have I got to do with it? ”- perhaps the most typical answers to the offer to go to the training, Sinton-cinema or to join the Distance.
What to do in this situation? After all, it turns out that you go forward, achieve something, rethink something, change old attitudes, overestimate values - in a word, you move! And at this time, another oar of your family boat, which worked in a habitually measured rhythm, continues to row along the beaten track of automatisms, creating turns, congestion and cycles. How not to slip into a situation where the husband is a “suitcase without handles,” which is hard to carry and it is a pity to leave? After all, he is his own, dear and beloved, and you, like, are still one, but already different. Continue reading
I will suggest you look at a small fragment of a conversation between two well-educated and already loving each other people. Their names are Ricky and Kate. This small conversation is unlikely to attract your attention – it is so ordinary, familiar, not distinguished by anything. And in my opinion, this is outrageous, because the way Kate says here is an example of rotten negative manipulations, and the link “But everyone does the same!” matters does not change. Let everyone do it – but will you do it?
I am sure that most of the readers of the Psychologist of this article will not understand and will call the author a petty person who, for nothing, will find fault with women. You have the right to such opinions, but you may also be interested in another view, where it is important not to convict, but to tell loving people: what is permissible and what is not. Because if what you do is returned to you by your partner, you will be offended and indignant. And because if you love – you want to take care of your beloved. Yes?
So watch the video. And after that – we will make a transcript of what is happening. Continue reading