Tongues of love
The language of love is the form and the way in which one person gives his love to another.
Love has its tongues. If you talk about your love in a language incomprehensible to your beloved, your love will remain incomprehensible to him. Another person needs to convey his love in a language that is close and understandable to him. And there are many languages of love: someone closer to the language of words, someone the language of action, someone the language of touch …
If for one to love is to help, and for the other to sit and look into each other’s eyes, then these two loving people in the evening after work may not understand each other. She rattles pots in the kitchen, prepares dinner for her lover and is angry with him, which he sits on the sofa and does not help. And the beloved at this time sits on the couch and is sad why the beloved does not sit with him and runs away from him to the kitchen all the time …
The main languages of love.
Touching and kissing – you want to touch your beloved, hold on to your hand, kiss …
Time together – if your loved ones spends time with anyone, but not with me, it’s a shame. And if he wants to be with you, it’s a joy!
Words of love – I want to hear from my beloved that you are dear to him, that he loves you!
Caring is any effective help, including washing, going to the store and any small services by the way).
Sex – yes, it is pleasure and confirmation of close relationships.
To obey – for the sake of a loved one, you can at one point not argue, but simply take it and do it. Why? Because for a loved one.
Attention to a loved one – when you remember and think about a loved one, you want to tell him about it. SMS, just call, small souvenirs from the trip, pick up a gift in advance – this suggests that the question: “Where is your soul?” you have the correct answer.
Gifts – beloved wants to give the whole world. And if the whole world does not work out, then the gift is expensive, worthy and exclusive.
Revitalization. If your face is livelier near your beloved than with anyone else, it means that your beloved is truly your beloved, that is, the source of life.
How to use this list
Love cannot be claimed. The list of “Languages of Love” is not a reason for accusations towards the partner: “You are not enough for me!” How to use knowledge of languages of love?
First of all, this list is a list of requirements for yourself. Am I giving this to my beloved? Think over your behavior, and if you miss something, you forget about something, then remember and add if possible. And make it a habit.
Further, this list is a good reason for a warm conversation. It may very well turn out that something is more important for the partner, and something less, and then you may not take care of everything right away, namely that which is more relevant for the partner.
Suppose gifts are unimportant to her, and she really needs words and touches. So, hug and tell her what she is your favorite. Or perhaps it’s important for him not so much time just to be together, but sex and obedience. Well then …
Note – if the partner wants something, this does not mean that he has the right to it and you are obliged. Suppose he wants sex three times a day, and she wants to be together for 8 hours daily. It may turn out to be too difficult to meet expectations. But if people love each other, they usually manage to agree on something mutually acceptable ↑.
Male and female preferences
To find out what your partner appreciates, it is best to talk to him about it. If, for the time being, the conversation did not take place, one can (temporarily) stick to observations about the typical preferences of men and women. For example, for men, the main languages of love are sex, caring, and obedience. For women – attention to her, words of love and gifts …
The reader writes: “Once I asked my husband how he understands that I love him, at what moments and what I need to do for this, so that he understands that I love him? His answer was:“ When we have sex and when you feed me ”(in the sense of preparing him to eat). For my part, I assumed that he thinks that I love him when I cook him for food, deal with children and the family as a whole, communicate with his parents and friends. .. ”
Talking about languages of love is relevant for people who are mentally healthy and in a resource state. When people are offended, in negativity and other non-resource states, they need to bring themselves to life, restore their mental health, and not burden themselves with feelings: “Well, I need to tell my beloved more good words, and now I’ll be pulled every time when I I’m coming up to him! Horror! Nightmare! ” Do not load yourself. See Better Working with Emotions and Healthy Living Better
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