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Format

Format – a form of behavior required for a certain range of situations. This is a specially defined behavior and part of the usually natural reactions that are proposed to be made conscious, controlled and in accordance with family, corporate or other, social and social standards.
There are as many different types of format as there are situations important for people, primarily situations of interpersonal communication, where special behavior and special response are required.

In the civilian world one can be absent-minded and lethargic, one can stoop and whistle, speak through one’s teeth and be silent when asked. In the army, when the format is respected, the officers are assembled, keep straight, give orders clearly and clearly confirm that the order will be executed. A business format implies only attention, composure and constructiveness, and not absent-mindedness, a desire to have fun, frustration or resentment, which is allowed in a free format.

Personal format – a set of requirements for the style of behavior and communication, when people are out of officialdom and are engaged not in business, but in personal relationships. As a rule, warmth, openness, emancipation, emotionality, easy hitting, jokes and talking just like that.

Army, official and business is a responsible format, a format of relations where people are interested in resolving issues with a very high price for error. As a rule, this is physical and mental composure, thoughtfulness, seriousness, specificity, exactingness for oneself and others, thoughtful actions and high discipline.

The format of communication with parents, leaders, senior in military ranks, and judges implies respect for them, and the format of relations between equals requires respect for the territory of each and the absence of a position of superiority.

The format of relations between men and women is a special world and a lot of circumstances … Many people develop special formats for special situations: for example, “Repeat, agree, add” – a convenient format for discussing controversial, difficult issues.

What is the format for?
The format sets the desired communication style. Friendly (personal) communication has one format, business communication – another. In a friendly format, it is good to be friends, but it is difficult to do business. A business format helps to do business, but does not favor friendship.

The format is useful for forming the desired emotional state, preventing or removing unnecessary emotions. For example, a business or army format involves only vigor, attention and composure, and not frustration and resentment.

A format is needed to emphasize social status. When a judge enters the courtroom, it is customary to get up. It is also accepted in the best universities that students get up when a teacher enters the audience. Previously, similar traditions were in schools, when a teacher entered the classroom, children got up. Now these traditions are leaving: what comes in their place?

There is a wonderful passage in the film “Napoleon” when Napoleon, who became emperor, tells his family and friends how now they should turn to him … Those close at first were in complete shock, but gradually they adopted the new format, and after a while they began to consciously support it : when they thus raise the status of emperor, the status of emperor already works for them.

The format is vital for creating and maintaining the authority of parents in raising children. If the children do not know what the format is in relations with parents, this usually leads to deterioration and destruction of relations, weaning from discipline and discipline, destroys the basis of male education. Parents lose credibility.

Non-compliance with the format is usually perceived as a conflictogen, although it is a sign of close relationships or a feature of leadership behavior. With all exceptions, non-compliance with the format, as a rule, leads to deterioration and destruction of relations. Educated people know what a format is, observe the format themselves and, whenever possible, make sure that others observe the format as well. Setting and maintaining the format is the most important condition for maintaining a high level of relations. For relations to be of high quality, you must first set the format, then carefully monitor its compliance.

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