How to combine work and personal life
If it seems to us that somehow Work and Personal life mix poorly, usually this is caused by dissatisfaction with the situation in LV. But further, the reasons for this discontent can be very different. Typical reasons:
Need to prioritize
Indeed, sometimes in any situation there is not enough time for joint LV. Solution: either determine that work is more important now – and calm down, or cut back on work. You can trim the work either mechanically, or learn to fit it in a shorter time due to time management. Another option is to use any of the smallest opportunities in order to convey to loved ones your love and attention: SMS, signs of attention.
Partner does not help …
There is not enough time for joint LV, you seem to be able to find it, but the partner does not want to search for it. The solution is to figure out why. Maybe this is temporary (work is more important for the partner now), maybe the partner does not understand that you have enough (to talk about it clearly – Talk about difficult relationships), or the partner, in principle, is not very dear to you – in comparison with work. In the latter case, either accept it or look for another partner.
A lot of empty extraneous matters …
There is not enough time for joint LV because you are constantly doing something else, some garbage. The solution is to figure out what exactly you are doing, and draw a picture of life, where you are doing what to do for you correctly. To begin with – time tracking, where you take everything into account: trips to mom, and phone conversations with friends and acquaintances, and washing your hair, and shopping, and arguing with children, and going to the cottage, and cooking is all! At the same time, you will find out how much time you basically have (theoretically) relatively free where your LV can be. Suppose it is 32 hours. Then we distribute this time. For example, 8 hours for communication and LV in person with a loved one (husband), where there is nobody else. 8 hours – purely on yourself, where no one else. 8 hours – for household chores. And 8 hours – for household chores and loved ones, where the husband is next to you in the background. If this suits you, it remains only to realize it. You can ask your husband to help you with this.
Something is wrong in life …
This means: in fact, everything is in order, LV and work are normally combined, but in life something is not right and I want to find or come up with a reason. So they came up with this: “The work and the LV do not combine.” This is an idea that, perhaps, gives you the right to run away from work and from your family now.
My personal life does not suit me …
It happens too. It seems that objectively there is enough time for LV, but LV of poor quality, there is no joy from such LV, and in order not to look for the guilty, we attribute everything to terrible work.
Solution: establish LV in the current time and stop nodding to work. Family contract questionnaire, Languages of love, Family constitution, Talk about difficult relationships – learn and apply. And also to raise an emotional tone: smile, inner motor, compliments, thanks, declarations of love!
Combining work and personal life is possible – normal, uncomplicated, natural. Of course, one must take into account the fact that for most modern successful men, under the age of 40, work (successful work) is more important than personal life. Such a man is still in business, he is not yet interested in his personal life (if seriously). And for a woman, if she is doing well with success, personal life is more important. Self-realization of a man begins with work, with work, self-realization of a woman – with personal relationships, with family, with love. But this does not mean that self-realization is being completed.
For business people, family is important. Most adult, smart, strong men are very interested in their personal lives, if only because this is also a space where he, too, can build his world, his humanity, his family. He can establish his own rules in this territory, build relations the way he wants. And this is attractive to so many men: “This is my woman, my children, my world!” And he will treat it as sincerely, as reverently as he will work. But this is if the wife understands that work for him is, if not the most important, then one of the most important. If she respects his affairs, then she will become for him the dearest woman. If she screams, makes a noise on the topic: “You do not take care of your family, you only care about work, you don’t think about children at all!”, Then it is quite possible that he will begin to look for a more understanding woman somewhere.
When a man put things in order at work (and this is absolutely real), and can afford to reach a level where most processes go in a reasonable way, he has time for his family, children, and his health. Moreover, if you put things in order at work, it is easier for you to put things in order in the family, because the rules here are the same. What you learned at work as a leader will help you in the family. What you learned in the family as the head of the family will help you at work, in relationships with employees.