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Red cat, or Who is the main in the family

Mom is difficult to fight with her child. And it’s easy for a child to fight with his mother. Well, and who will defeat whom? If formulated more broadly, then: loving and decent parents, by virtue of their decency, cannot afford what the child can easily afford, and therefore often pass to the child. I don’t feel like fighting roughly, so they are ready to give in and agree. That is, to obey and acknowledge the power of the child. And so normal children usually beat such normal adults “at a time.”

Here is the dreary organization of social security. A long line, in her ranks is a mother with a cute baby. The kid sits on his mother’s lap, smiles at her and with pleasure, ras-ka-chi-wa-a-yas! – falls nape on the floor. More precisely, it starts to fall, because mom catches him every time. And that is why he freely, in his full pleasure, falls over and over. After all, mom – catches him? Always, be sure to catch? The child selflessly creates a holiday! Well, in this case, at the expense of mom.

Maybe it can be lowered to the floor, put on their own legs? Well you, this is impossible. Because in this case, the child will quickly run to the door of the closest rooms and will open them with interest. And then it’s very cool to knock doors. And if mom will forbid it or decides to slap him, then you can start screaming wildly with your whole body, which is what mother is most afraid of in the world.

Therefore, the mother will keep the cute baby on his knees, and, smiling with all his cheeks, love him with urine, lifting his considerable weight over and over again with all his strength. And where is she, mom, going before the child? Mom knows what will happen if her child is cracked with a nape on the floor. The child does not want to know this. And so he will command the parade.

The power of a child and a man nearby
A child for a mother is a source of constant trouble, a man is a breadwinner and lover. It would seem that from the point of view of reason and logic, a woman should more value a man, a husband, and a child should be in second place for her. Is it so? – That’s right, not so. In choosing between a child and a man (oh, God forbid, God forbid, of course!) A modern woman almost without hesitation chooses – right, a child! After all, she is a mother!

And the fact that she is also a wife … Well, wife … So what? Is mother more important? In addition, the mother is led by maternal instinct.

In fact this is not true. The maternal instinct serves the mother’s behavior only during the first months after the birth of the baby, then the mother behaves the way she is used to or how she was raised.

In traditional cultures, attitudes towards children were very different and, frankly, not so exalted. Often, good cattle was valued more than a child, in Russian folk tales there is not a rare story when a father sells his son, which attracted someone. The death of a child, especially when his wife is constantly abdominal, was experienced briefly: “God gave – God took.” Another will be born. A son was born – okay, this is a good addition to the family, we will feed – there will be a worker. A daughter was born – well, mother, she made friends, now I have to put an extra mouth …

By the way, relations with sons were not only joyful. Alexander Sergeyevich Pushkin’s grandfather, Hannibal, was not just an African black, he was one of the nineteen tsar’s sons, since tsarist dynasties were also on the African continent. So, one of the brightest memories of his childhood was the picture when he ran in front of his father and touched everything with his little hands. He was the only one who could do this: all the other brothers were tied hands at each meeting with his father. Why? Yes, because then it was completely natural if any of the sons suddenly waved a knife and killed his father. To become a king yourself. And therefore, for any self-respecting father, it was then natural for his children to be treated as potential killers. Why not tied Hannibal? The reason is simple: he was still too small then …

I think that mothers, each in their own way, but always loved and loved their children, and hardly in the last two centuries, motherly love has become stronger and more tremulous. Maternal love has always been in the world and, apparently, it always will remain. But what is changing is the attitude towards this love: to consider it something important or not. Like this? I will explain with an example.

Here the girl loves her beloved doll very much and simply cannot live without it, but the doll is barely alive, completely worn out, and you can no longer carry such a mess from the village to the city apartment (according to the parents). Where do you think this elderly doll will spend its last winter? The correct answer is “Unknown!” Because in our culture toys have not yet received the status of holiness, and parents feel their right to decide this question quite arbitrarily: “Well, what are you roaring ?! We’ll buy another one for you. Barbie! ”And among herself:“ Anyway, she will forget her in a week ”

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