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How can I make your day better?

My name is Richard Evans, I am a writer, but I want to talk about what was in our family, without thought. And Carrie and I were all bad, very bad. Perhaps we did not fit each other in character, but we constantly fought hard battles with her. We quarreled and scandalized, scandalized and quarreled. Divorce seemed inevitable.

When we once again terribly quarreled on the phone and the pipes were thrown on both sides, I just broke. I already had no one to yell at, I was yelling just like that, from wild rage. The fact is that I still did not want to get a divorce. I still knew that Carrie is a good person, I naturally am silent to myself, so why can’t two good and loving people get along together?

I yelled, tired and almost fell asleep. And then, almost in a dream, the thought came to me: what if we conduct the last experiment? There is nothing to lose anyway … I smiled and after that I fell asleep already soundly.

The next morning I woke up with a smile, got up and went to the kitchen to Carrie. She was cold and did not even dignify me with a look. Well, please! I felt even fun. So, I asked her:

“How can I make your day better?”

Carrie looked at me angrily:

– What?

“How can I make your day better?”

“No way,” she snapped. – Why do you ask?

“Because I’m serious,” I said. “I just want to know how I can make your day better.”

She looked at me a little with a mockery:

“Do you want to do something?” Fine, then wash the kitchen.

She thought that I would explode with anger, and I nodded: “Good!” Then he went and washed the kitchen. Well, what do you say after that, dear?

The next day she was still cold, but I asked the same thing: “How can I make your day better?” She replied, did not turn her head: “Get out of the garage!”

Actually, I was upset, Carrie knew that, but I had no options anyway, and I was ready to go all the way. They went to hell, my deeds, my Carrie is dearer to me, so I smiled at her and said: “Good!”. The garage took me two hours. Not scary. Good! By the way, it seemed to me that Carrie was puzzled.
The next morning was gloomy, but my mood was already perky. “How can I make your day better?” I asked Carrie, moving closer to her. She took a step back and said: “Nothing! You can’t do anything. Do not scoff at me and stop it! ”

I was silent for a moment. And then he took her hands in his own and told her that I would not stop doing it, because I had given myself the word to do it every day now and because I love her. “I will live with you and I will ask every day what I can do for you. And I will do what you tell me, because you are dear to me and I want to live with you. And until you divorce me myself, I will meet you every day with a smile, flowers and the question “How can I make your day better?” ”!
By the way, I started to bring flowers home from that first day when I made my decision.
Carrie said nothing and looked away. The next morning, I again approached her with a smile and asked: “How can I make your day better!” – Carrie answered a little automatically, but she answered! I continued to do this the next morning, and the next morning, and around the middle of the second week, a miracle happened, which I actually expected. I was sure that this would happen – and it happened! This time, at my question, Carrie seemed to stop, her eyes filled with tears, now she took my hands in hers and began to cry frantically. I hugged her. When she calmed down, she continued to look away, and then quietly asked: “Please do not ask me this question again. It is terribly hard and painful for me, because the problem is not in you, but in me. I know that it’s hard with me, and I don’t want to torment you. I love you and hate you because I torment you … ”In response, I only hugged her again.
We stood. We have not been so close for a long time, I already forgot how Carrie smells … I felt that I still love.

I gently took her chin to look directly into her eyes. “I will still ask you this question because I love you,” I said. “How can I make your day better?” “I should ask you this.” “A must, but not now. Now I want to change. You must know how much you mean to me. ” Carrie once again laid her head on my chest and said quietly: “I’m sorry I behaved so badly.” “I love you,” I said. “And I love you,” she answered. “How can I make your day better?” Carrie looked at me affectionately: “Maybe we will stay together for a while?” Just you and me”. I smiled: “I would really like that!” I kept asking for more than a month. And the relationship has changed. Quarrels ceased. Then the wife began to ask: “What would you like me to do? How can I become the best wife for you? ”
The wall between us collapsed. We started talking – openly, thoughtfully – about what we want from life and how we can make each other happier. No, we did not solve all our problems at once. I can’t even say that we never quarreled again.

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