How to get married happily
To get married – do not attack, as if married not to disappear!
These are two completely different tasks: one thing is to get married, the other is to get married happily. How to get married is described in detail in the article “How to Act a Girl to Marry”: the article is not very kind, but realistic. The main thing in the science of “getting married” is 1) to learn to weed out men in love who are not going to get married in the near future with any love, and 2) to play on the man’s sense of a hunter, posing himself in front of men as a woman who needs to be won and won.
But getting married happily is another matter. This is about how to find your person, how to find a person worthy, how to build and maintain warm and open relationships. If you meet such a person, you will love him, but future happiness does not begin with a feeling of love, but with your ability to understand people. Moreover, a strong love often turns out to be rather an obstacle: the more we are in love, the more difficult it is for us to understand the features of the one who attracts us so much.
How to find your man? Something will tell you the heart, something the head. Strictly speaking, the heart has nothing to do with it, your body will tell you: if you are physically attracted to a person, the touches excite, and your bodies add up in the dance – well, okay frogs, they closed one important point. The second is how much you have similar habits and values, and here you need to include your head. If you are too different, it is better to stay in friends or love relationships, and do not fool each other’s heads. Family is more than meeting and bed, spouses should be in the same harness, they should feel each other and pull in one direction.
Important: it’s best to make a decision “to marry – not to marry” at the time of cooling relations. Falling in love makes you headache, but if you understand at the time of a quarrel that you still want to live with this person for many years together – most likely you are right. To check this again, take a piece of paper and put points in writing to your chosen one according to the following parameters:
He is a dear friend, it is easy, interesting and sincere with him. Open and warm conversations, nice, plus at least little things will always help.
My man is a serious person, he is able to provide for his family and is ready to do it. You can talk with him about money, he treats money responsibly, you can rely on him and on agreements with him.
My beloved is my defense and support. I’m not weak, but in really difficult situations I can always rely on him. He is not afraid to make responsible decisions, takes responsibility and does everything possible. I’m behind him, like a stone wall.
My good one is able to equip life. What is needed is either done by itself, or it will be organized so that everything that is needed is everything turned on and washed off, so that everything works and that my head does not hurt about repairs.
My man is a strong and gentle lover. I like!
He is smart, energetic and takes care that we do not sour: it is important for him to develop both his own and mine. With him I will be in development, and such a development suits me.
My loved one will be a great father to my children. They will respect and love him, he will be able to raise healthy and intelligent people from them.
This man can be the head of the family. He can control both himself and all of us, he is smart and strong. I am ready to listen to him.
Men also have disadvantages, I hope you take them into account too. No matter how you are in love, you will not marry someone who is lying to you, who allows himself to be rude and unrestrained. Allows itself now – further will be even worse. So this does not suit us. Bad habits, walks, alcohol – cross out immediately. He may say that he loves you, but if a can of beer is more expensive for him than you – this is not your man. If he is an exploiter or a lazy person, resentful or depressed, not prestigious or a sloven, always with complaints or a jailer, deprives you of freedom and friends – think three times if you need such a gift. You can get married, but next to such a happy you will not. “And we have no others!” – Yes, probably, but that doesn’t mean anything. If you set such a task, then gaining access to truly worthy men is quite realistic.
Smart women always choose, but the choice is not easy: this one is like and suitable, but what if my dream suddenly awaits me? But maybe it doesn’t wait, but this one – here, to all agree … A tit in the hands or a crane in the sky? I don’t want to agree to a compromise, but you will choose too long, you can stay with nothing at all. How right? Remember the decision: estimate the total number of possible applicants and divide by three. The resulting number is the number of those you should reject. After that, take anyone who will be better than all the previous ones.
If this person suits you and you know how to negotiate with him, you have good chances for a strong relationship and a strong family. This is the basis of love, but it is still not love. And if you were only in love, you know, falling in love soon. But whether your relationship to love will come is a question about something else, where is your skill important first…