The Taming of the Shrew, or How to Put a Husband on a Distance
Putting your soulmate on the Distance is a thankful result, but not easy in itself. Especially if your other half is an adult and mature, with your own opinion, sometimes…

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Partnerships in the family: not always equality and not everyone can do it
In the comments on the test "I am the sun" and many articles on marital relations, you can often hear: "Domostroy does not suit me, there must be partnerships in…

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What is love worth?
"I love you!" - what are these words? "I love you, dear, but today is football, and football is dearer to me than you!" "I love you, dear, but my…

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Monthly Archives: December 2019

Red cat, or Who is the main in the family

Mom is difficult to fight with her child. And it’s easy for a child to fight with his mother. Well, and who will defeat whom? If formulated more broadly, then: loving and decent parents, by virtue of their decency, cannot afford what the child can easily afford, and therefore often pass to the child. I don’t feel like fighting roughly, so they are ready to give in and agree. That is, to obey and acknowledge the power of the child. And so normal children usually beat such normal adults “at a time.”

Here is the dreary organization of social security. A long line, in her ranks is a mother with a cute baby. The kid sits on his mother’s lap, smiles at her and with pleasure, ras-ka-chi-wa-a-yas! – falls nape on the floor. More precisely, it starts to fall, because mom catches him every time. And that is why he freely, in his full pleasure, falls over and over. After all, mom – catches him? Always, be sure to catch? The child selflessly creates a holiday! Well, in this case, at the expense of mom. Continue reading

Friendship and friendship: why, how, with whom?

Each of us needs friends, everyone values ​​friendships, but in science the phenomenon of friendship and friendship has not been studied well. Perhaps, Igor Semenovich Kon, who even wrote a book called Friendship, sorted it out best. She came out back in the 70s.
Generally speaking, friendship is a “sexless marriage”. In the sense that people do not marry each other, but all other relationships, minus sexual ones, remain with them. This is help, support, devotion, interest in each other, a joint pastime. At the same time, this happens more in marriage, and in friendship it is often more interesting and better. Friendship is the satisfaction of our needs for participation, support, in sharing our impressions.

Friendship can be between people close and not, friends and pals. But they may not be between them. Different people put different content into the word Friends and Friend. Friends should not be confused only with friends. Friends are people with whom you can have fun, but nothing more. They differ from friends in that friends can be asked for help in difficult times, but friends can’t. The right people are needed, useful contacts are useful, but it’s not at all the same as friends. A separate conversation about what a true friend is, as opposed to just a friend. One thing is for sure: good friends go to someone who knows how to be a good friend. Continue reading

Family WE

The essence of the family is WE: caring for both of us, about ourselves and about you, about our couple. We were separate, and we became together, we became a couple: you become part of me, I am part of you. “You and I – we are one.”

Internal wording: “Sometimes you want to kill you, to get a divorce – no.” “Divorce is out of the question, so we have two options: either shoot, or learn to negotiate.”

Feeling WE: “You and I are one, a continuation of each other.” The basis of proximity. We can have elements of a transaction in the family, but its basis is different: the couple lives (consciously or unconsciously) by believing in love – that the other can take care of you as of himself. Continue reading

No one owes nothing to nobody?
"No one owes nothing to nobody!" - I said thirty years ago in the book "How to treat yourself and people: practical psychology for every day." Since then, an equal…

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And what do you think? - dialogue support and vaccination against categorization
Discussing difficult issues is not easy. When people are addicted, they begin to speak categorically, throw a lot of negativity on their partner and just immediately talk about a lot,…

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Ji must be let go! - How do we push each other
I will suggest you look at a small fragment of a conversation between two well-educated and already loving each other people. Their names are Ricky and Kate. This small conversation…

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When a family is created through sex - there is nothing good about it
“Our women have three sexual disorders: pedophilia, bestiality, masochism.” Recently, marriage statistics look like a social catastrophe: the number of divorces is almost equal to the number of marriages. According…

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