Attachments are good as long as you need each other and your attachments are not sick, soft, rather playful. If your partner’s relationship shows a tough, sick attachment to you, then this is a dangerous situation. A person with such affection gives inappropriate reactions: he literally pursues the object of his “love”, calls at any time of the day, demands to be with him, threatens to deprive himself, or even of another life.
How to prevent such a relationship? What to do if such a person, nevertheless, appeared next to you? How to end such a relationship, if they have already begun?
The most important rule that you need to adopt is not to mess with those who may develop a sick attachment. Starting to build a relationship with a new person, listen to his words, look at emotions. If, suddenly, you begin to hear from him something like “I can’t live without you,” said in all seriousness with real emotions, then this is a clear alarm signal and you will be prompted: “This relationship needs to be quickly stopped.” Continue reading
After a divorce from my husband, two years later, I began a new relationship with another man. Everything developed well, but I had my five-year-old daughter, so the question arose before me: “How will the child accept the new dad, how will the man accept my child?” Today I understand that this wording “accept – not accept” itself gave rise to fear in me, negative pictures were drawn in my head on how to save myself from fears – I did not quite understand. No one can guarantee you that your child and your beloved man will immediately make friends, but you can confidently say that you need to put the question in a different way, namely: “What is the best way to arrange a meeting of two people I love so that they can easily meet each other and find out more quickly friend? ” I’ll translate it again: it’s silly to discuss “they will accept – they will not accept”, they will certainly accept, it depends on me only how to help this. Continue reading
A crisis in a relationship is a period when your previous relationship has ceased to suit you. When the couple no longer wants to live as before, and the relationship can not develop according to the old patterns. If the relationship was expensive, then the crisis is painfully experienced.
The partner’s habits that you didn’t pay attention to are now constantly annoying. You don’t understand how you didn’t notice this before him (her)? Your eyes seem to open wide, you get the feeling that you used to be hibernated, in a fog, bewitched, but now you suddenly woke up and you feel disappointed. As if you were deceived! …
The family is similar to a living organism and in its development goes through the traditional stages and stages, which can be called the levels of family development. This is the period of courtship, then living together without children, then – a family with a small child, a mature family and a family with adult children. Then the children leave their parents, leaving for an independent life. For many families, an additional turning point is retirement, when you have to rebuild life in a completely new way. Continue reading