Criticism offensive and unfair: what to do about it?
Culture is not peculiar to everyone, and from many people and more than once you will once hear both stupid and offensive remarks. If possible, it is better to skip…

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The Taming of the Shrew, or How to Put a Husband on a Distance
Putting your soulmate on the Distance is a thankful result, but not easy in itself. Especially if your other half is an adult and mature, with your own opinion, sometimes…

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Ji must be let go! - How do we push each other
I will suggest you look at a small fragment of a conversation between two well-educated and already loving each other people. Their names are Ricky and Kate. This small conversation…

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Fidelity and treason

With regard to family psychology, fidelity is the most important and not always achievable condition for maintaining the stability of a monogamous marriage. Treason in marriage, adultery – a violation of a public or secret agreement on the exclusivity of intimate relationships.

In family history for at least several millennia, male fidelity, as a concept, was absent. Men, if life circumstances allowed them, allowed themselves to have several wives (there were certain obligations to them) and concubines without a number (there were no obligations to the concubines). In this case, female infidelity was considered simply as physical infidelity, namely a sexual relationship with another man. The fact of forcing a woman to have sex could be a circumstance mitigating her guilt, but it might not be. Continue reading

Wise people do not forgive anyone, but demanding people do not forgive everyone at once

Forgiveness – the removal of claims and accusations, the cessation of resentment and anger towards the previously guilty. Forgiveness is the world. It is a world for yourself and a declaration of peace for the one you are angry with.
Note: your forgiveness is not omnipotent. If you haven’t forgiven, it’s not obvious that a person is worried because of this, and if you have forgiven, it’s not at all necessary that a person will feel better immediately afterward. People are still quite autonomous creatures, and their experiences depend not only on us, on our words and our attitude, but also on the inner position of the person himself. If the one who is guilty feels guilty before us, then forgiveness usually reduces his feelings. However, if the experiencing person is more versed in himself, then your forgiveness does not play a key role for him. Continue reading

I’m not cruel, I take care of your son

Situation
A woman, 47 years old, married, lives with her husband. The main earner in the family is her. 2 years ago I bought an apartment in a mortgage, a year ago they completed the repair. At the time of the repair, the husband’s son was discharged from the 1st marriage from Tashkent, the guy is 30 years old. At the moment, the guy lives with them in a 2-room apartment.

The stepson has the citizenship of Uzbekistan and has a residence permit in Russia. There is currently no Russian passport. He works as a security guard, spends his salary solely on himself. It was assumed that after the completion of the repair he would rent a separate living space. The stepson does not want to move out, because he is comfortable. He explains the delay in leaving so that he does not earn much to rent an apartment, but in order to earn more, he needs to submit documents for issuing a Russian passport, but he cannot collect documents, because he is at work all the time. The guy is not very clean, not accustomed to the order. Familiar girls leads to the apartment. The woman doesn’t like all this and she wants the guy to live separately. Continue reading

Criticism offensive and unfair: what to do about it?
Culture is not peculiar to everyone, and from many people and more than once you will once hear both stupid and offensive remarks. If possible, it is better to skip…

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Loves a woman, loves a child
"Loves a woman, loves a child." I very often hear this saying when it comes to talking about the children that a man receives with his beloved woman. Does a…

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Our family values
We live for good, not personal entertainment. Our task is to leave a good mark in life, and our life is dedicated to this, and not to sleep more, eat…

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How can I make your day better?
My name is Richard Evans, I am a writer, but I want to talk about what was in our family, without thought. And Carrie and I were all bad, very…

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