And what do you think? - dialogue support and vaccination against categorization
Discussing difficult issues is not easy. When people are addicted, they begin to speak categorically, throw a lot of negativity on their partner and just immediately talk about a lot,…

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Family is a common goal
What makes a couple stable and what is not in most Russian families You have met or heard such stories. Imagine a queue near the office of an official. About…

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I'm not cruel, I take care of your son
Situation A woman, 47 years old, married, lives with her husband. The main earner in the family is her. 2 years ago I bought an apartment in a mortgage, a…

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Anatomy of family communication

Usually hidden necrophiles are fond of anatomy, especially pathologic anatomy; nevertheless, I will venture to offer you a small excursion into the pathological anatomy of family communication.
Well, really, this is interesting!

A family was formed. They found each other. With truths and loves, they ended up together, all official visits were completed, the door closed pleasantly behind the last fattened guest, you can start a family life.

And this is how? What to do?

The most understandable is often the most mysterious. Continue reading

I want to give birth to a child from a married man

A year ago, returning from a business trip, I stopped by my friends and involuntarily witnessed a discussion of the life situation in which there was one woman who decided to have a child from a married man. The discussion was quite emotional, sometimes opinions were directly opposite. They also turned to me with a request to express their opinion.

I replied that only a serious, deep conversation with this woman would help clarify the situation, and it would be possible to offer options for her harmonious resolution. To my surprise, two days later she came to me for a consultation.

As it turned out, having decided to give birth to a child from her beloved man, Nina, this was the name of this woman, shared her intention with loved ones, an adult couple, whose opinion she valued. They were a great authority for her. Contrary to her expectations, they reacted to such news sharply negatively, believing that giving birth to a child from a married man and raising him in an incomplete family would doom him to a difficult fate in advance.

Her joy gave way to fright and she came to me in dismay. Continue reading

Partnerships in the family: not always equality and not everyone can do it

In the comments on the test “I am the sun” and many articles on marital relations, you can often hear: “Domostroy does not suit me, there must be partnerships in the family!” But does everyone know what it is: partnerships? For our Russian culture this phenomenon is quite new, for some it is very like, but for someone it causes serious protests. The purpose of this article is to talk about partnerships in more detail, describe their pros and cons, and discuss who they are suitable for and who are not.
The essence of partnerships in family relations is that partners cast aside their prejudices about “how it should be in the family in general” and decide all specific issues themselves, agree on everything on an equal and free way.
There is a man, he has his own vision of possible relationships and his own interests. There is a woman, she has her own views on relationships and her plans. These free people sit down and agree on how they want to live together. And then they live by these arrangements … Continue reading

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