conversation without need
Usually hidden necrophiles are fond of anatomy, especially pathologic anatomy; nevertheless, I will venture to offer you a small excursion into the pathological anatomy of family communication.
Well, really, this is interesting!
A family was formed. They found each other. With truths and loves, they ended up together, all official visits were completed, the door closed pleasantly behind the last fattened guest, you can start a family life.
And this is how? What to do?
The most understandable is often the most mysterious. Continue reading
If people are smart and love each other, everything is simple: one asked, the other did. Disagreements arise – close people agree. You can agree on almost everything, but not everyone is inclined to discuss, not always everything is openly discussed, it is appropriate and not everything is decided by discussion. For example, if you need to wean a person from a bad habit or to accustom to a good one, if you just need to draw attention to something, and distract from something, these are not questions of discussion, this is a question of various influences.
Is it possible, is it normal for loved ones to influence each other? Smart and loving – yes, you can and should. One way or another, close people always influence each other, the only question is how to do it more competently.
The “Crystallization” technique that we developed to resolve problems between spouses consists of the following steps. Suppose a husband wants to correct his wife’s behavior, which can suddenly erupt with reproaches, insults, he solves many issues without consulting her husband, essentially pushing him aside, that is, correcting those moments that weigh on him, do not like him and just offend him. Then: Continue reading