Criticism offensive and unfair: what to do about it?
Culture is not peculiar to everyone, and from many people and more than once you will once hear both stupid and offensive remarks. If possible, it is better to skip…

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How to combine work and personal life
If it seems to us that somehow Work and Personal life mix poorly, usually this is caused by dissatisfaction with the situation in LV. But further, the reasons for this…

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No one owes nothing to nobody?
"No one owes nothing to nobody!" - I said thirty years ago in the book "How to treat yourself and people: practical psychology for every day." Since then, an equal…

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How to learn to take money from a man?

Most often, considering the financial side of relations with men, women are almost always portrayed as some kind of “predators”, who lure money from the stronger sex. And the reverse question is very rarely raised: how to learn to take money from a man?

Among the weaker sex, there are many representatives who emphasize their independence and proudly pay only with their own credit card. In this case, the woman in every possible way demonstrates that she can give herself everything she needs. There is another group that is very difficult to see against the background of gray walls and pans. Their requests and ideas about themselves are so blurred that “men’s money” simply does not find them, and if they get to the address, then a quiet voice is heard from the depths of the kitchen: “I do not need anything.” Continue reading

Wise people do not forgive anyone, but demanding people do not forgive everyone at once

Forgiveness – the removal of claims and accusations, the cessation of resentment and anger towards the previously guilty. Forgiveness is the world. It is a world for yourself and a declaration of peace for the one you are angry with.
Note: your forgiveness is not omnipotent. If you haven’t forgiven, it’s not obvious that a person is worried because of this, and if you have forgiven, it’s not at all necessary that a person will feel better immediately afterward. People are still quite autonomous creatures, and their experiences depend not only on us, on our words and our attitude, but also on the inner position of the person himself. If the one who is guilty feels guilty before us, then forgiveness usually reduces his feelings. However, if the experiencing person is more versed in himself, then your forgiveness does not play a key role for him. Continue reading

I’m not cruel, I take care of your son

Situation
A woman, 47 years old, married, lives with her husband. The main earner in the family is her. 2 years ago I bought an apartment in a mortgage, a year ago they completed the repair. At the time of the repair, the husband’s son was discharged from the 1st marriage from Tashkent, the guy is 30 years old. At the moment, the guy lives with them in a 2-room apartment.

The stepson has the citizenship of Uzbekistan and has a residence permit in Russia. There is currently no Russian passport. He works as a security guard, spends his salary solely on himself. It was assumed that after the completion of the repair he would rent a separate living space. The stepson does not want to move out, because he is comfortable. He explains the delay in leaving so that he does not earn much to rent an apartment, but in order to earn more, he needs to submit documents for issuing a Russian passport, but he cannot collect documents, because he is at work all the time. The guy is not very clean, not accustomed to the order. Familiar girls leads to the apartment. The woman doesn’t like all this and she wants the guy to live separately. Continue reading

Format
Format - a form of behavior required for a certain range of situations. This is a specially defined behavior and part of the usually natural reactions that are proposed to…

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And what are we going to talk about today?
“My father always tried to choose an interesting or useful topic during lunch to develop the mind of his children. In this way, he turned our attention to good deeds…

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I'm not cruel, I take care of your son
Situation A woman, 47 years old, married, lives with her husband. The main earner in the family is her. 2 years ago I bought an apartment in a mortgage, a…

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What to learn from a European family
The rational and very useful achievement of the European family - the lack of division of responsibilities between women and men, may seem controversial for a Russian person, but it…

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