Prevention of sick attachments
Attachments are good as long as you need each other and your attachments are not sick, soft, rather playful. If your partner’s relationship shows a tough, sick attachment to you,…

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No one owes nothing to nobody?
"No one owes nothing to nobody!" - I said thirty years ago in the book "How to treat yourself and people: practical psychology for every day." Since then, an equal…

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Marital relations: how to influence each other
If people are smart and love each other, everything is simple: one asked, the other did. Disagreements arise - close people agree. You can agree on almost everything, but not…

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How to learn to take money from a man?

Most often, considering the financial side of relations with men, women are almost always portrayed as some kind of “predators”, who lure money from the stronger sex. And the reverse question is very rarely raised: how to learn to take money from a man?

Among the weaker sex, there are many representatives who emphasize their independence and proudly pay only with their own credit card. In this case, the woman in every possible way demonstrates that she can give herself everything she needs. There is another group that is very difficult to see against the background of gray walls and pans. Their requests and ideas about themselves are so blurred that “men’s money” simply does not find them, and if they get to the address, then a quiet voice is heard from the depths of the kitchen: “I do not need anything.” Continue reading

Wise people do not forgive anyone, but demanding people do not forgive everyone at once

Forgiveness – the removal of claims and accusations, the cessation of resentment and anger towards the previously guilty. Forgiveness is the world. It is a world for yourself and a declaration of peace for the one you are angry with.
Note: your forgiveness is not omnipotent. If you haven’t forgiven, it’s not obvious that a person is worried because of this, and if you have forgiven, it’s not at all necessary that a person will feel better immediately afterward. People are still quite autonomous creatures, and their experiences depend not only on us, on our words and our attitude, but also on the inner position of the person himself. If the one who is guilty feels guilty before us, then forgiveness usually reduces his feelings. However, if the experiencing person is more versed in himself, then your forgiveness does not play a key role for him. Continue reading

I’m not cruel, I take care of your son

Situation
A woman, 47 years old, married, lives with her husband. The main earner in the family is her. 2 years ago I bought an apartment in a mortgage, a year ago they completed the repair. At the time of the repair, the husband’s son was discharged from the 1st marriage from Tashkent, the guy is 30 years old. At the moment, the guy lives with them in a 2-room apartment.

The stepson has the citizenship of Uzbekistan and has a residence permit in Russia. There is currently no Russian passport. He works as a security guard, spends his salary solely on himself. It was assumed that after the completion of the repair he would rent a separate living space. The stepson does not want to move out, because he is comfortable. He explains the delay in leaving so that he does not earn much to rent an apartment, but in order to earn more, he needs to submit documents for issuing a Russian passport, but he cannot collect documents, because he is at work all the time. The guy is not very clean, not accustomed to the order. Familiar girls leads to the apartment. The woman doesn’t like all this and she wants the guy to live separately. Continue reading

Men and women: why inequality?
Over and over again, in the comments and letters, the women write indignant messages to the editor of the Psychologist. Hello. Please tell me, are men some experts? Are they…

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Red cat, or Who is the main in the family
Mom is difficult to fight with her child. And it’s easy for a child to fight with his mother. Well, and who will defeat whom? If formulated more broadly, then:…

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Family is a common goal
What makes a couple stable and what is not in most Russian families You have met or heard such stories. Imagine a queue near the office of an official. About…

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Wise people do not forgive anyone, but demanding people do not forgive everyone at once
Forgiveness - the removal of claims and accusations, the cessation of resentment and anger towards the previously guilty. Forgiveness is the world. It is a world for yourself and a…

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