What makes a couple stable and what is not in most Russian families
You have met or heard such stories. Imagine a queue near the office of an official. About 20 people are sitting and everyone needs a single reference. And then the secretary comes out and reports that the official is no longer accepting today, and has just left. What you will see the unity of angry citizens, who had not before and did not care about each other!
Also in the family. Imagine: a couple, not the first year together, tired of family life. They tolerate each other, but on the whole they have not experienced much pleasure from communicating with each other for a long time – a lot of discontent, disagreement, and resentment have accumulated. But suddenly something happened. For example, a child fell ill, and not just with a runny nose, but with something requiring a long and difficult treatment. And parents unite in front of a common task – the child must be cured at all costs, and all disagreements, emotions (or lack thereof) go to the background. Continue reading
Over and over again, in the comments and letters, the women write indignant messages to the editor of the Psychologist.
Hello. Please tell me, are men some experts? Are they at a brides fair, or what? They choose it, and women only develop and develop, work and work on themselves? Guys do not need it? Thank you for not being gay, not a pervert, not married, etc. But women are better. Why should they be in the position of subordinates? Why’s that?
Dear men, you need to understand that times have changed. Everyone continues to believe in the old fashioned way that a woman was created in order to create comfortable conditions for men, to cook them and to “give power”. Your views are not applicable to marriage: a union of two equal people. Children obey their parents because their parents are smarter and more experienced (by the way, when the children grow up, their parents obey them), the general is higher than the ordinary soldier. Unfortunately, a man has nothing that a priori puts him higher than a woman: one cannot say that a man is smarter, more experienced and so on by default. If in a specific situation the husband is old and smart, and the wife is young and inexperienced, she will listen to him, because he, as a person, is more experienced and smarter than her. And if spouses are close in age, in degree of education, in intellect, why is one obliged to obey the other and “give power”? Continue reading
What woman doesn’t dream of marrying a general? That’s right, this is a real man, a strong and responsible person, you are behind him like a stone wall. Everything is so, but after work he is so tired and exhausted that at best he is no longer up to you, but at worst – he needs to be discharged by someone … Who, interestingly, guess?
How then to meet him? Any inaccuracy, especially an oversight – and you will be destroyed on the way, because to scandalize with it is as promising as resisting a nuclear explosion. Only one way out: to master the tools of a wise wife and meet her husband correctly. How? Of course, we’ll tell you.
First: your task is to receive instructions from the source. Oddly enough, this is usually not the most difficult task. Once, when your husband is full, satisfied and cheerful (suppose this is a day off or you are on vacation together), you find a reason and ask him the following question: “How do I meet you from work when you are tired? How can I help you?”.
Please note this question is simple, straightforward, not heavy and not long. Here you are not talking about your difficult feelings and feelings, do not load it with details and problems, you just need instructions: how to do it right. For a military man, this is more than understandable: any business is done according to the instructions. Continue reading