How is psychological attachment formed
Attachment is a connection that attracts and holds a person next to someone or something when neither a feeling of love, nor interest or benefit connects him with it. To…

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Criticism offensive and unfair: what to do about it?
Culture is not peculiar to everyone, and from many people and more than once you will once hear both stupid and offensive remarks. If possible, it is better to skip…

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And what do you think? - dialogue support and vaccination against categorization
Discussing difficult issues is not easy. When people are addicted, they begin to speak categorically, throw a lot of negativity on their partner and just immediately talk about a lot,…

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She was cold

No one owes nothing to nobody?

“No one owes nothing to nobody!” – I said thirty years ago in the book “How to treat yourself and people: practical psychology for every day.” Since then, an equal number of people have sent me both ardent thanks for this position, which gave them wisdom and peace of mind, and equally fire-breathing claims from those who began to think so, treat people like that and as a result have broken their lives.

I quote the source:

I wake up early in the morning, I need to quickly pack up: I’m flying on a business trip. I understand that I don’t have time already: things are not all gathered, but it would be nice to have breakfast. My wife is lying, but she could probably stand up and help me … I’m ready to express my reproaches to her, but I stop myself at once: “Does this woman, your beloved wife, owe you something? No. But if do you want her to get up and help you, what should you do? – … It’s good to ask her: so that she wants to help you. ” And if she gets up and does everything, what will the husband have to tell her? – Thanks. And if she doesn’t get up (“I didn’t get enough sleep, the child didn’t let me sleep all night”), what should my husband do? At least not to be offended, and maybe apologize for the anxiety. Continue reading

How can I make your day better?

My name is Richard Evans, I am a writer, but I want to talk about what was in our family, without thought. And Carrie and I were all bad, very bad. Perhaps we did not fit each other in character, but we constantly fought hard battles with her. We quarreled and scandalized, scandalized and quarreled. Divorce seemed inevitable.

When we once again terribly quarreled on the phone and the pipes were thrown on both sides, I just broke. I already had no one to yell at, I was yelling just like that, from wild rage. The fact is that I still did not want to get a divorce. I still knew that Carrie is a good person, I naturally am silent to myself, so why can’t two good and loving people get along together?

I yelled, tired and almost fell asleep. And then, almost in a dream, the thought came to me: what if we conduct the last experiment? There is nothing to lose anyway … I smiled and after that I fell asleep already soundly. Continue reading

Red cat, or Who is the main in the family
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Fidelity and treason
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Our family values
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Acquaintance of a daughter with a new dad
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