What to learn from a European family
The rational and very useful achievement of the European family - the lack of division of responsibilities between women and men, may seem controversial for a Russian person, but it…

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Acquaintance of a daughter with a new dad
After a divorce from my husband, two years later, I began a new relationship with another man. Everything developed well, but I had my five-year-old daughter, so the question arose…

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How to stop being Mommy
Women do not know how to love. Twist as you like, but this is the real truth. Strongly said, yes? That's what I wanted to call this note, but I…

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A real woman is always a cat

Dogs are loyal to the owner and are well trained. Cats come to the house to enjoy food and home comfort, but are not attached to the owners, are poorly trained and walk on their own. If you give the dog a command, she will execute it. If you try to give the cat a command, it will at best turn its head in your direction and look at you carefully. In men, dog psychology. In women, cat psychology. A real woman is always a cat.
Interestingly, in childhood you can’t make out. Everyone knows that the parents’ boys do not obey, run shaggy, scream and fight, scatter things, do not do homework and run away from home. But girls are more obedient to boys, behave well, are neat and combed, often help around the house and in case of disagreement they do not rebel, but cry quietly. If the girl fights and runs away from home, then she is said to have a boyish character.
In fact, this is not so. If the boy does not agree with his parents, he does not obey them openly and is ready to fight for his independence, but if the son and father agree, he fulfills what was said in the “Said – done.” With girls, everything is different: it seems to you that she is listening to you, but this is not so. Girls are cunning, they do not fight openly, they use a more subtle arsenal. Continue reading

No one owes nothing to nobody?

“No one owes nothing to nobody!” – I said thirty years ago in the book “How to treat yourself and people: practical psychology for every day.” Since then, an equal number of people have sent me both ardent thanks for this position, which gave them wisdom and peace of mind, and equally fire-breathing claims from those who began to think so, treat people like that and as a result have broken their lives.

I quote the source:

I wake up early in the morning, I need to quickly pack up: I’m flying on a business trip. I understand that I don’t have time already: things are not all gathered, but it would be nice to have breakfast. My wife is lying, but she could probably stand up and help me … I’m ready to express my reproaches to her, but I stop myself at once: “Does this woman, your beloved wife, owe you something? No. But if do you want her to get up and help you, what should you do? – … It’s good to ask her: so that she wants to help you. ” And if she gets up and does everything, what will the husband have to tell her? – Thanks. And if she doesn’t get up (“I didn’t get enough sleep, the child didn’t let me sleep all night”), what should my husband do? At least not to be offended, and maybe apologize for the anxiety. Continue reading

Is the woman responsible for the mood in the family? Are you seriously?

Recently, the conviction: “This woman is responsible for the atmosphere (mood, psychological climate) in the family”, it seems, comes from every iron. The propaganda of this madness has reached some incredible proportions.
Why do I call this belief insanity? Because it destroys marriages as briskly as uncontrolled deforestation destroys Amazon. I see it constantly, because I work with couples who are on the verge of a divorce.

Alas, for many people, the conviction “A woman is responsible for the way in the family” is not a conviction at all, but an indisputable fact (of the “wet water” level). And if the water is really wet, then with family responsibility, things are more complicated.

And if this man is sure that the woman is responsible for the psychological climate in the family, he takes off all responsibility for the family. If a woman thinks so, then she takes all this responsibility upon herself. Continue reading

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